Does Love Hurt?

Why do we feel hurt by Love?

Is Love the source of our pain?

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Are our past experiences the real bully?

All our lives we've heard that phrase, "Love hurts..." And all of our lives we have believed it. While it may feel like Love is the bully, that kind of thinking denies that God is Love, and that is in conflict with scripture.

All our lives we've accumulated experiences that have helped to form our perspectives, our opinions, and our tolerance thresholds. And all of our lives we have blamed God for our circumstances. That is a further denial of the truth of scripture.

You see, if we practiced forgiveness from the very first time we experienced hurt from a breakup or even divorce, we would be in the ideal position to let Love off the hook and learn from the experience. God allows us to taste hurt to be sure. The truth is, however, he doesn't desire for us to swallow it.

Learning from heartache gives us eyes to see others the way God sees them. We are then able to understand that we live in a hurting world. Those of us who call ourselves Christian have been provided the perfect template for avoiding further pain through the act of forgiveness, and we are expected to emulate it.

When we forgive, we deny darkness the opportunity to deceive us into thinking we've been wronged. Thus we avoid pain. When we accomplish this, we see the perceived offense by another, not as hurting us, but as a cry for help.

Love cannot hurt us, and God is not against us.

Love is not designed to participate in pain except to serve as the cure. God would never allow himself to be called Love if there existed the remote possibility that He/It/Love could actually do anything to hurt us. However, he does understand that we blame him.

To be sure, we do hurt. We hurt for various reasons, and pain in many forms and fashions is sometimes aimed at us by others. And even though we do sometimes hurt, remember this truth:

Love does NOT hurt :)

Beloved, we all want to be loved. It is only natural. So if you ever find yourself at the end of a relationship, don't let Love go just because another person let you go. Instead, allow the God of Love to enfold you in his loving embrace. Then extend as best you can the same Love towards that person.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. . .And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

LUVWRX (believe it)